1. Try to plan everything in advance if possible. Grief makes dealing with loss hell. When my dad was told that he had 3 months to live, I went to the funeral home and planned everything beforehand.

2. Try to get siblings on the same page. Family fights while planning funerals makes the process worse. The corollary to this is to have open dialogue with the loved one and know what their wishes are. This also ties into #3.

3. Know where any life insurance policies and Social...